Title - The Power of Choice - superimposed over a sign pointing in opposite directions

Have You Ever Felt Helpless?

Have you been there, overwhelmed, feeling as though the circumstances of your life are beyond your control? Your dreams, goals and life’s trajectory have all been turned around, upside-down and moved just beyond your reach? It’s that feeling of the rug being pulled out from under you, the free fall, trying to catch a hold onto what you once had, yet it’s all suddenly gone. It’s frightening.

If you’ve walked down the road of divorceRead more »

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Title over picture of flower: Jewish Holidays After Divorce - Creating a Parenting Plan that Works

In preparing to assist Jewish clients in the work of creating effective parenting plans and schedules, it is important to understand how the Jewish holidays fit into the secular calendar. While holidays are traditionally a time of familial togetherness, a time when memories are created and shared, facing the holiday season after divorce can create feelings of stress and anxiety. By helping clients to plan accordingly, professionals can play a significant role in alleviating these concerns.Read more »

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Person staring out at the sea. and dark sky. Caption: Reaching out of the darkness - finding the courage to ask for help
Recently I was speaking with a woman who recounted a deeply difficult experience she had undergone a number of years ago. This experience had spanned the course of a number of months, during which she had been witness to daily traumas. Even as she wished that she could remove herself from the situation, she found herself not knowing how to do so until a number of months later.
 
She described to me the isolation she had felt and how she had shouldered the burden largely on her own. She did not feel that she could reach out for support at the time, afraid of overwhelming those around her. She let me in to her story from that difficult period, the depression she had weathered and the toll that it continues to take upon her mental health as she now wrestles, working through PTSD. Thankfully, she was able to move forward and has engaged a support team to assist her in her healing journey.

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If you’re anything like me, you appreciate that the written word is a magical thing. From the youngest of ages, I recall being pleasure of being read to, subsequently growing into an avid reader myself. With a a bookseller for an uncle and voracious readers as parents, it was inevitable that I would come to raise the next generation with this same sentiment.

A photographed collection of children's book covers relating to separation and divorce. The table is entirely covered by these books.

A good book takes you in, offering security, fostering the imagination, providing a sense of connection. Today, in honour of Family Literacy Day, I have curated a list of the some of the (in my opinion) best children’s books about divorce that are currently available on the market. Read more »

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Steps with Title Just One Step Ahead

Dear Recently Separated, this post is for you.
Dear I Don’t Know Whether to Stay or Go, this post is for you.
Dear Overwhelmed Single Parent, this post is for you.

Dear Nobody Gets Just How Difficult This Is, this post, most of all, is for you.

For many, New Year’s can be an invigorating time; a time to look at the year ahead and dream of all that we are going to accomplish. After introspection and an assessment of how far we have come over the course of the past year, we create lists and charts elabourating upon the areas that we are going to improve in our lives. You might be looking at your health, your career or your co-parenting and evaluating the ways in which you could improve upon the status quo. You may feel inspired and prepared to make changes, ready to run out of the gates as that clock strikes midnight on December 31st.

But perhaps not.

Perhaps this is the year-end where you’ve felt bedraggled, alone and emotionally drained.Read more »

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How to Prepare for a Consultation with a Family Law Lawyer

Heading into a consultation with a family law lawyer is a crucial step in initiating divorce proceedings. In Finding the Right Lawyer for You and Finding a Family Law Lawyer – Breaking Down the Process we’ve taken a look at how to narrow down your search for a lawyer. A legal consultation is a means ofRead more »

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Understanding Best Interests of the Child
The Legal Definition

The Best Interests of the Child (BIC) is a primary factor by which living conditions and custody arrangements are determined in cases of familial breakdown. If you know someone who has experienced family law proceedings, it is likely that they will have heard the phrase a multitude of times prior to the stamping of a divorce decree.

While the phrase has made its way into colloquial terminology and is often mentioned loosely with regards to the creating of parenting plans, the actual definition of the term is lesser known.Read more »

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Spring cleaning after divorce

Spring is a time for renewal. It’s a time when we throw the windows open, welcoming in the fresh air and the long awaited warmer weather (ok, perhaps still waiting for the warmer weather this year). We clear out the old to make space for the new. For some, the idea of a spring cleaning and a fresh start carries with it a poignant significance.

If you’ve been through a separation or divorce over the course of the last few months, you might welcome this opportunity to begin anew. While acknowledgingRead more »

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title: demystifying child custody, girl over picture of girl on a swing

As parents we live for our children, often setting aside personal needs and wants in order to provide them with an optimal upbringing. Ask a parent what their deepest desire for their children is and more often than not their answer will be simply for their children to have a healthy, happy life and an understanding that they are loved. In cases of marital or relationship breakdown, parents are inevitably faced with one of the most difficult experiences that parenthood may bring: navigating division of custodial rights and parenting time in planning for their children’s future. In order for parents to knowledgeably make these critical decisions for their children’s future, it is helpful to first understand the concepts behind them.

The Meaning of “Child Custody”

One of the greatest misconceptions when it comes to discussing child custody isRead more »

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Post Title: A Year of Conquering Fear, overlayed upon sparkler.

There’s something invigorating about the year’s beginning. Everywhere we glance there is another article about new year’s resolutions or reflections on the past year’s accomplishments. Mid-way into January, the daylight hours are incrementally beginning to lengthen. Despite the frosty cold outside, we begin to think of the warmer days to come, not too far off; subconsciously we begin mapping out the months ahead.

Recently I heard the ideaRead more »

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